Learn Dating Secrets

personals guideline Through all the experiences from my dating and watching other peoples go threw the
dating experiences, I have a lot of lesson learned. One of the most important parts to dating is having the opportunity to meet that person. When you see an opportunity to meet someone, take it. If you have been thinking of asking someone out, do it. Dating is about opportunity and timing. It is being at the
right place at the right time. If you pass someone in a store, you have that opportunity to
speak to that person at that moment. If you do not say anything, then you will not be able
to pass by that person again. This applies to meeting people anywhere. Parties, festivals,
concerts, sporting events, or passing someone on a sidewalk. Also, if you have been thinking of asking someone out that you know, but may be hesitant. Think about this. If you wait to long that person may start dating someone else. Then you have missed your opportunity. This can happen a lot.
Try to take advantage of the opportunities to date someone when they occur. They can be
few and far between. Depending on whom you meet, there are different levels of what you have in
common with someone. There are also different levels of attraction with someone. This
means that you may be harshly attracted to someone but you do not have allot in common. Or you get along great with someone but you are not attracted to this person. So this person may just be a friend. You must have enough of both to make a relationship work. So you may find that there are different levels of compatibility and attraction in a relationship. If you are looking for a long-term relationship with someone then, there may be some people out there that may not be your best chose. They may not be interested or just not capable of a long-term relationship. These people are fresh out of a marriage or a long-term relationship. Usually the first person they date after a long-term break up will not work out. Also people that date a lot. They do not have the commitment for a long term relationship. The first sign of trouble in the relationship they will unusually get out because it is easy for them to jump from one person to the next. Sometimes people who have been single for a long time. They are used to being single
and do not want to change that. These people are still may be capable of a long-term relationship but are a higher risk to invest your time with. Use caution when getting involved. If you feel the person you are with is not totally interested in you. Or the person may be just coasting along, with no plans for the future. Then you need to ask them how they feel about the relationship. Are they happy with you? Is there a future with this relationship? If the answer, they give you, are everything is fine but you still feel it is not
sincere answer. Then here are some things to consider. There are a lot of people out there that will date someone because they do not want to be alone or just for convenience. They have no intention of the relationship to go anywhere. Here are some signs. They have not introduced you to their friends or family.
They always make some excuse. They never make plans to far in the future. They do not make plans for the weekend until the last minute. You always go over to their house. They keep the relationship at a distance. They seem like a mystery person. You only see the person maybe once or twice a week. Do not waste your time coasting threw a relationship. There is no future. The time you are spending with this person is preventing you from meeting a potential dating opportunity. If you feel the person you are with is not faithful then here are some signs to look for. You see changes in their personality. Taking up new hobbies. Making up excuses not to see you because of some prior comment. Working a lot more. Making a lot more phone calls. If their answer machine volume is turn down so you can not here their messages.
Making sure not to play messages back when you are around. Does not want to spend much time around their place. Becomes very vague about where they have been and what they have been doing. Starts to become distance. Dresses better when they go out. Before you confront someone about this, make sure that both people involved in the relationship, understand this is a monogamous relationship. Some people just take this for granted that this is a monogamous relationship without discussing this with the other
person. So they may think it is ok to date other people. If it was discussed early on that this is a monogamous relationship and you still think they may be dating other people. Than ask them if they are dating other people. Watch closely how they react when you ask them. Watch their facial expressions. Some people will explode in anger trying to hide the fact they are cheating. Being involved with someone, that you think is cheating on you can be very difficult. If you start to watch someone for signs of cheating, then it can be easy to misread the signs. This person may not even be cheating on you but you think they are. Sometimes you may be reading signs that may not even be there. So if you see these signs, this does not mean they are differently cheating on you. So you must be careful with these signs because it is easy to misread. This is important. Use caution when approaching someone about cheating. Do not go in and blast someone with accusation about cheating. Use tact. Try to follow your gut feeling when getting involved with someone. This can be a very important tool when it comes to dating. This can apply to all areas of dating. If it does not feel right, than most likely it is not right. This will often tell you if you are
making the right decision or not. Sometimes listen to trusted friends if they are trying to give you advise about the person you are involve with. Sometimes they can see things you can not. The key is a
trusted friends whose opinion you value. If you are stressed out all the time with the person you are with then you may be with the wrong person. That is not what relationship is about. You are supposed to enjoy being with them most of the time. Relationships are up and downs. You may go thought some difficult spells. But overall, the relationship should be pretty good. If things are not going good with someone and relationship has been declining over a period of time. Then do something to fix it. You can waste years of your life, coasting in a relationship. Go to counseling, read a book on improving relationships or just do try to mix things up in the relationship. This will help you get out of the rut. If the relationship
can not be work out, then move on. Life is too short to be in unhappy relationship. Remember no relationship is perfect. There will always be some problems regardless of which you are dating. It is just a matter if you can deal with those problems or not. There may be come a time when you have dated a lot and have not found the person you are looking for. You may have to consider, is it worth doing all this dating to find the special someone? If you have been dating a lot, it is easy to become burnout.
You may want to take a break from dating for a while. Also, you may want to rethink your standards in what you are looking for. Are you looking for the perfect person? If so, take a hard look at what you are looking for. You may want to reconsider on some things. Try having a sense of humor about dating. One day you will look back on these dating experiences and have a good laugh. Do not lend money to people you date. It will put a strain on the relationship. Also, if the relationship ends on a bad note, you will probably not see the money again. When you figure out what you want in someone, and you begin to search for this type of person, remember you can meet this person tomorrow or 3 years from now. So be
prepared you may have to wait a while before you meet this person. If you are ending a relationship, because you think it is greener on the other side. You may want to consider a couple of things. When you try looking for someone better, is not a guarantee that you will find it. If the person you are with is cheating on you, verbal or physically abusing you or the relationship is totally empty, than you are probably better off without that person. But if you want to end the relationship base on something trivial
than chances are, you may regret it. Looking for someone better, is a gamble. It is not guaranteed that will find a better partner. There are a lot of good people out there to meet, when it comes to dating. These
people can provide good opportunities in moving forward in a relationship. But here are also a lot of bad people out there. These people will try use you, so they can get what ever they want. This can be sex, money, job potential, material things, social status, repairs on cars and houses or any reason. There are players out there that can talk the pants off of anybody. They can romance you and make you believe anything. This can apply to male and female. The bottom line is this , you have to look out for yourself when it comes to dating. If you meet a player who is taking you for a ride, it can be a very painful experience. If you are dating someone and you feel you are being taken advantage of, then most likely you are. Ask a trusted friend if what is going on in your relationship is wrong. Is the relationship very one sided. Are you doing everything in the relationship and the other person is just kicking back. You should know right from wrong. Do not sick your head in the sand and ignore it. If you are being taken advantage of, do something about. Confront that person. Tell that person about the issues, that you are having
problems with. Stand your ground. Some problems are corrected temporary, and you may end up sliding back into the same routine. Do not let that happen. Learning how to read people, can be an important tool in dating. This can help you weed out some undesirable people. If you can read people, you can see right thought the players or the people that are just taken you for a ride. It will help you decide if you are interested in someone, early on. This way you will not have to date someone for a long period and then go through a painful break up. Being able to read people will help you make better chooses, in dating. When you read this book you will see allot of experience, ideas and advice. But these ideas are not etch in stone. This means, not every dating experience will follow exactly what you read in this book. A lot of people will follow basic partners when dating. These patterns are what you have read in this book. So when you are involved with someone and you may think there is an impassable issue because of what you have seen or read. Just remember, anything can happen in a relationship. The Dating Guideline.

Most of the information in this book is based on my real life experiences. I have had allot of lessons learned when it comes to dating. I also have learned allot through talking to other people about their dating experiences. I have tried to pass on these ideas, lessons and experiences to you, in this book. Hopefully, this will help you in dating. Everybody has his or her own unique way of dating. So try using a couple ideas in this book and see if it works for you. If one idea does not work, try another one. The key is,
find out what works for you. Here is a guideline that I have created through my experiences in dating. This guideline has work well for others and me when it comes to dating. See if it will work for you.
Find out what you want and do not want in someone. This includes personality, goals and
interest. Do not settle with the important issues. Look closely at a person's attachments.
Try to provide yourself with some choices, when dating. Remember no one is perfect and
give people a chance.